The 3 Fights Every Couple Has (Including Me and My Husband!).

Hi friends!

It’s Dr. Gallardo here. 🌟
Today, I want to talk about something I’ve noticed over and over — not just with the amazing couples I work with, but even in my own marriage!

Here's my big theory:
All couples have the same three fights.

Sounds crazy, right? But it’s true! No matter how much two people love each other, there are always a few things they bump heads about. I call these our core differences.

But don't worry — the good news is, when you figure out your core differences, your fights can become a lot less scary and way easier to handle.
Let’s dive in!

What Are Core Differences?

Core differences are those deep-down parts of us that make us who we are.
It could be how we were raised, how we think about money, how we like to spend our time, or even how we show love. When two people come together, their differences show up — and sometimes, those differences lead to arguments. This is something we usually don’t worry about when dating. Right?

Common marriage fights usually aren't about the little things (like who left the socks on the floor!). They're about big, important stuff underneath.

Think of it like an iceberg. 🌊
You might see a tiny part sticking out, but there's a huge part hidden under the water. That’s what’s really going on when couples argue.

What Do My Husband and I Fight About?

A little while ago, I was chatting with a friend (he’s super curious about relationships!), and he surprised me with a BIG question:

"Dr. Gallardo, what do you and your husband fight about?"

"What do you and your husband fight about?"

I actually laughed because I knew the answer right away!
Here’s the real, honest truth:

1. We Fight About Time

I like to plan everything. 🗓️
My husband? He’s much more go-with-the-flow.
I want to know what’s happening a week from now, and he’s happy to figure it out 5 minutes before!
This core difference can cause some tension. If we aren’t careful, I feel stressed, and he feels rushed.

But when we talk about it, we remember:
We just have different styles. Neither one of us is wrong — we just have to meet in the middle.

2. We Fight About How We Spend Our Weekends.

Both of us love being around the people we care about, but we definitely have different ideas about weekends!
I’m someone who likes to plan out every hour — brunch at 10, hike at 2, movie night at 7. 🎥🍿
My husband? He’s more of a “let’s see where the day takes us” kind of guy.

You can probably guess — sometimes this leads to some funny disagreements!

What helps us?
We remind ourselves that we’re a team. 🧡
We take turns — sometimes we plan a schedule, and sometimes we leave the day wide open for adventure. It keeps things exciting (and keeps both of us happy)!

3. We Fight About Money (and Our Forgetful App Adventures!).

Oh man, money! 💵
If you ever thought grown-ups had it all figured out — surprise! We don’t. 😅

Marcelo and I are both spenders and savers. We love treating ourselves to good food, fun adventures, and maybe a few too many coffee shop treats. ☕🍰 But we also know it’s important to save for the future, so we try to balance both. (We’re like budgeting superheroes… most of the time! 🦸‍♀️🦸‍♂️)

To stay on track, we downloaded a money app to keep up with what we’re spending.
(We were feeling very responsible about it. Gold stars for us! ⭐)

Buuut... sometimes Marcelo forgets to log his spending.
So when I check the app and it says we only spent $20 all week... I know something fishy is going on! 🐟😂

What helps us?
We don’t freak out.
We have “money talks” where we sit down, check the app together, and make a plan for the month.
And if things get messy, we just laugh, hug, and promise to do a little better next time.

(And maybe, just maybe, I set a few reminder alarms on Marcelo’s phone. 😉)

How We Turn Fights Into Healthy Conversations.

Here’s the biggest secret:
Fighting isn’t bad. Fighting is normal!
What matters is how you fight and how you fix it afterward.

In a healthy relationship, you don’t have to agree on everything.
You just need to:

• Listen with kindness
  
  

• Try to understand the other person's side
  
  

• Remember you’re on the same team
  🏆 Team Marriage for the win!
  
  

When my husband and I realize that our fights are just about our core differences, it helps us calm down.
It’s not about "winning" — it’s about understanding each other better.

Final Thoughts: Conflict in Marriage Is Normal!

So the next time you and your partner get into a little argument, try asking yourself:
"Is this one of our core differences?"

Knowing this can change everything!
Instead of feeling upset, you’ll feel more connected.
You'll start building stronger, healthier conversations — and a stronger, happier marriage.

And trust me, if my husband and I can do it (even with all our crazy schedules and differences!), you can too! 🌟

Here’s to love, laughter, and a few tiny fights along the way!

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